Ever hear the
words, “Other duties as assigned”? In police work, this happens more often than
not. Cops respond to 911 calls for service that don’t have anything to do with
law enforcement. “Other duties” might be as mundane as returning a lost wallet
to an owner or as heart stopping as delivering a baby! It might not be what we
signed up for, but a call to 911 can certainly lead to a temporary “calling” as
a marriage counselor, a doctor or a pastor. There will always be “other duties
as assigned” moments along a journey of faith. You might even be tempted to say,
“I didn’t sign up for this!” But living your faith in ways that are beyond
belief is what we are called to do. Jesus said time and again, “Everything is
possible for one who believes.” (Mark 9:23)
During the
month of November 2004, my in-laws suffered the loss of three family members in
separate incidents: a wife, a brother-in-law and a nephew. The family plot was
in New Hampshire and because it was the dead of winter, the ground was frozen
and no burial was possible. The family had to wait until spring to hold a
memorial service. A few months into the new year, my brother-in-law called to ask if I
would be willing to officiate the service. I said yes.
So how would I
lead a memorial service? This would be my first. I asked a few pastors and learned that there was a Pastor’s
Bible that had outlines and suggested scriptures for every possible service or
event. I also learned that every denomination had traditions, practices and
procedures that were very different for putting people to rest. This was going
to be more challenging than I thought. It was when I called my good
friend, Pastor Tom, that I got the answer I needed. Tom said, “A memorial service
has three parts: Remember those who died, comfort the living and preach Christ
resurrected.” I could do that!
In April 2005,
we gathered at the family plot in New Hampshire. I led a group of 20 or so in
singing Amazing Grace and followed the advice of Pastor Tom. I shared how Jesus
died on the cross for our sin and the hope we have in his resurrection. It went
great. The service ended and the immediate family stayed for the internment. The
grave yard attendant came over and uncovered a hole four feet by three feet. I
could see there were three small concrete crypts into which he would place
each urn. The mood was sad as each one was lowered into place. As the attendant
reached across the hole to place the last urn, he lost his balance, dropped my
nephew and fell in!
The group went
dead silent (pun intended). The poor guy was trying to hold himself up and get
out by pushing up on one of the crypts. This was not going to work as his thighs
were resting on the edge of the hole and his feet were sticking up in the air
at a forty-five degree angle. The only way out for him would be to crawl in the
hole, get on his feet and climb out. Now being the only public safety professional
in the group I did what my duty called me to. I had a camera in my pocket and
everything inside me said, “Take a picture, take a picture, take a picture!” What
to do? Help the guy or snap the photo?
The truth of
the matter is that my compassion for graveyard guy outweighed my desire to capture
a really funny moment with a camera. I grabbed the guy by his ankles and was
able to give him the leverage he needed to push himself out of the hole. I
asked if he wanted me to place the last urn and he said yes. So there I was,
Mike the Graveyard Attendant. Other
Duties as Assigned.
So I managed
to remember those who passed, comforted the living, preached Christ resurrected and
helped a guy out of a grave. I think God gave me the opportunity to offer a
visual representation to go along with my resurrection message.
2 comments:
Love this story
K. Scudder
I remember very well, Mike, my pastors and my late-husband's dying/death/memorial/burial. He was very much a loner, but his wife and parents weren't, so there was a memorial of 300 people for someone who was very selective with those he would get close to . . . if he were doing the inviting, there would have been a congregation of about 3! so many people were at a loss for what to say to me, not having known him, and many of them never having ever even seeing him . . . my pastor remarked in the following week's sermon that he was really at a loss at that memorial, but it all comes down to one thing... LOVE! (being there . . . just being there! offering what you can even if you are at a loss) I remember his little book from which he got an outline for the memorial . . . it was so odd... very unlike him . . . but if anyone is at a loss for ANY "other duties as assigned," it just comes down to the same thing . . . just offer yourself "here I am lord, use me . . ." and "be there!" worked for us! thanks again for your faithfulness in your weekly postings! ♥
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